Ladies and gents, after a spring hiatus, the MFG is back! In the past few months, there’s been much needed reflection, lots of failure, and new direction. I’m going to fill you in on all the details. Read on!
It’s half way into the year and what have you all been up to? Be sure to email me or hit me up on the comments as I enjoy hearing from you.
As for me, this year has been a rollercoaster of emotions, a period of reflection, failures, growth and now a new beginning. Let’s get into it.
Health, Fitness and Exercise:
I’ve still been keeping up with my gym time as regularly as possible. I’m traveling for work a lot more but taking advantage of the hotel gym or bringing along my MightyBands. Unfortunately, I’ve hit some minor bumps with some odd injuries from my martial arts training 1) this crazy tension I get along the right side of my neck and 2) shoulder tension I experienced from attempting dumbbell flies after an intense training session the day before. (I’m hoping to get this looked at…)
What has this meant for me? I’m listening to my body. My workouts are focused on hypertrophy (4 sets of 8-12 reps) but I’m sticking to manageable weights and bodyweight exercises while focusing on proper form and mind/muscle connection. I’m also avoiding any exercises that trigger tension in my neck and shoulders. To minimize this, I’m also warming up before each session with 10 minute jogs on the treadmill.
I’ve been reflecting a lot over this past year – looking back at what I’ve done, what drives me, what I need to do today and where I want to go. Passion is key but mine seems to have dropped over the last year and this was very concerning to me. What I have learned, however, is that passion cannot be forced. It comes and goes, like night turning into day, and winter turning into spring – passion is seasonal.
I like to think of myself as a passionate and driven person, but over the last year, it has not felt the same. I’ve tried to push through it by faking it. I did not find this to help.
Instead, I’ve let the downturn in passion and drive just take me over and embrace it all. That lasted about a good month where I did nothing. I didn’t socialize, I didn’t take risks, I didn’t laugh much and all I did was distract myself with lots of insignificant things. (On the flip side, I saved some money!).
Eventually, this lull ran its course and I started to get back onto my feet, started doing the things that I always do but with a little more jump in my step.
But something was off.
I was me on the surface, but I wasn’t me on the inside…
Growth via Failure:
There came a point where I realized I needed the equivalent of a polar bear swim, a cold shower, a crazy bitch slap. What drove this? My realization that I wanted to take my current life-game and blast it into the next level. Most people are content with 6 out of 10. I want 9.5 out of 10.
My goal was to pick something I felt I needed to improve on and face it head on. That means I would fail, get rejected, lose, hurt, face embarrassment, etc. This was the cold shower I’ve been looking for.
Where do I start?
1) The basics – that means commitment, determine a game plan and setting goals.
But there’s one crucial element to all of this.
2) The fact that I’ll fail and fail lots trying.
This was absolutely crucial to me because over the last 10 years, for the most part, I’ve experienced steady growth and success. The problem with this, however, is you get comfortable and the feelings associated with failure becomes foreign and what becomes foreign, becomes scary.
Being comfortable means being stagnant. That’s no fun at all. That’s not me.
3) I needed the right people around me to make this happen.
You need people that will encourage you, bring you up, and not bask in your failure. These people are there to push and encourage you, get you out of your comfort zone and support you. You should be able to laugh, joke and naturally connect with these people in your circle. They should also appreciate the issue(s) you are trying to improve on and help you with that.
The End Result?
While I still have lots to work on, let me tell you, it’s been a great ride so far and grow I did! I’m operating at a level I never thought was achievable and, better yet, it’s positively affecting all the other parts of my life.
The first couple weeks were rough and fail I did – plenty of times and it sucked. I still experience failure but now it doesn’t sting – now it’s all just part of the show, of the fun. Like the burning sensation you get when lifting, like the high you get from getting hit while sparring – it’s all in the growing process.
Although I’ve been working on this one specific aspect of my life and growing from it, it has re-invigorated my passion, drive and hunger!
Case in point - I’m now working on a new web project geared to students breaking into the working world. I’m hoping to have my YouTube channel set up, videos posted and complementary website ready to go for the fall. Videos are another medium I’m not particularly comfortable with but that’s not going to stop me ;)
Bottom Line: Passion and drive comes and goes – this is natural. Embrace it either way. Comfortable = stagnant. Break out of your comfort zone and inject a catalyst into your life that will shake it all up. Have the right people around you. Fail lots and grow from it. Conquer the next item.